Change is scary – Dealing with Change

I wanted to get you thinking about the opportunities we all have in dealing with changes in our lives.

Dealing with change – Often we put off making those changes.

Dealing with change is scary – we run away from pain and when we’re not in crisis we may find it easier to live in an uncomfortable comfort zone rather than making changes. When supported by The Stamford Transformation Process dealing with change doesn’t need to be as scary or painful as you think and then letting go of your blocks becomes really easy – and so liberating. You’ll find that your life will reflect the changes you’ve made in a very positive way. So – please don’t be afraid of continuing to heal. Don’t be afraid of being the best version of yourself you can be, and don’t be frightened that you may have to make painful changes if you allow yourself to release your blocks. You will always have the choice of leaving things as they are, but you are likely to feel a lot better about your situation after the blocks have been released.

Let me leave you with something to think about:

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I Hate How I Look, part two

In the light of Monday’s all party House of Commons group on Body Confidence and Jackie Ashley’s great Guardian piece I thought I’d write some more about how Theta Healing can help you overcome your negative feelings towards your body. My original post on “I hate my body” is the most visited blog on my site, so I know it’s a big issue for many of you.

Body Dysmorphia is a mental disorder characterized by distorted body image and obsessions about perceived physical shortcomings.

Clients often tell me they hate how they look, they want to change their bodies, lose weight, have surgery. We all know people who are obsessed with their physical appearance, constantly berating themselves for how they look, yet the reality of how they look often bears no relation to how they perceive themselves.

Theta Healing has really helped many clients with body issues, help them overcome the issues that have led them to feel like this about themselves. Many clients feel ashamed of the way they look, but with some digging we usually discover that the beliefs that have led to their distorted body image have more to do with lack of confidence, low self esteem, low self-worth, feeling ashamed, childhood issues and more that have been projected onto feelings about how they look because it’s easier to hate your nose and blame that part of yourself for all the things that have gone wrong in your life than it is to deal with often painful emotional issues.
So many people who are so deeply ashamed of some part of their body or the shape of their body, that they come to reject themselves. It is a real and widespread problem and has ruined many lives, not only of the sufferers but also of their families and friends.
The body part they hate becomes the reason for all the things that don’t happen and have gone wrong in their lives. Usually – it’s held responsible for lack of confidence and lack of confidence is held responsible for most of life’s ills – failing to have a partner, never getting promoted at work and more.

Theta has helped many clients learn to love and accept themselves, see themselves for who they are and become confident, happy and positive about the way they look and their lives. I’ve seen amazing things happen to clients once we’ve cleared up the issues surrounding their distorted body image.
We have been given so many gifts and attributes which we ignore because we don’t have the thing we want. It’s like a child stamping her foot and saying if she can’t have an ice cream then she doesn’t want her dinner.
With Theta Healing it is much easier than one would think to learn how to accept and be happy with oneself.
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How your beliefs about money affect how much money you have

Our lives reflect our belief systems.
If we take just one example – our relationship to wealth – we will usually
find many negative beliefs. For example – that wealthy people are selfish or
insensitive to others needs. That wealth is somehow wrong and that we will
be tainted by it. The list goes on! But if we think like that – imagine how
difficult it is to attract wealth – because what you are actually saying in
your energy field is that wealth is bad for you.

So the universe honours your wishes and you never become wealthy.

Theta healing helps people remove their unconscious beliefs safely, easily
and very rapidly.

When this happens life reflects your more positive thinking back to you. And
your circumstances and relationships improve.

Don’t Turn Your Breakup Into A Battlefield

Breaking up is never easy, even if you are the one that wants to end the relationship. It can be a time of deep emotional pain, conflicting emotions and whether you initiated the break up or not both partners will go through some sort of grieving process. For some it may take years to get over, but it doesn’t have to be that way and neither does it have to be a period of fighting, pain and emotional turmoil as you and your partner negotiate the tricky and painful process of separating your lives and moving on. .

With the right help, advice and guidance, breaking up can handled healthily and civilly and it doesn’t necessarily need to take years to recover from the pain, rejection and sadness that inevitably accompanies a broken heart and the end of a relationship. That’s not to say it won’t hurt but many common mistakes, emotional minefields and unnecessary financial hardships can be avoided if you consciously choose to not fall into the trap of turning your break-up into a battlefield. You have a choice when a relationship ends, you can let it define your life and sink into a morass of anger, bitterness, victim hood and sadness or you can resolve to work to get over the pain of the break up and move on to a happier and healthier life.

Theta healing can help eliminate beliefs you may have that block your ability to process painful emotions that will inevitably come up through this difficult stage. A course of Theta Healing can help you move towards a new life more easily and with less pain, help your regain your confidence, understand what went wrong, help your children make the transition without dragging them into the break-up and causing them any more trauma than they need to endure. It can help you understand why you chose that particular partner in the first place and to face the future with hope and the confidence that your next romantic relationship will be successful and lead to happiness.

Despite most people saying they are determined to make their separation as amicable as possible, even when both want the relationship to end, the dissolution of a relationship can and often does quickly disintegrate into a battlefield. How you handle the break up will impact everyone around you, especially your ex-partner and your children if you have them.

It can be terrifying when a relationship ends and people often lash out and attack, often using the children as weapons to attack their partners, especially if they feel they are the wronged party. This can be especially damaging to the children and can have a life-long impact.

One of the biggest mistakes couples make when divorcing, is to immediately consult a lawyer. A period of emotional cooling off is advisable before you start negotiating about who takes the dog, and who keeps the DVD collection. Lawyers are quick to jump in and oftentimes create unnecessary conflict between a divorcing couple. Yet in many cases where divorce is inevitable, much of the separation can be handled by the couple themselves without incurring extortionate legal fees or stress. Divorce is the separation of assets and the negotiation of a new contract (the decree absolute). Ultimately, if a couple can’t come to an agreement between themselves, they will will make the painful process more difficult for themselves and increase their suffering. They will incur unnecessary legal bills, emotional stress and a allow a judge to decide their future. Where children are involved it could mean that the children suffer in unnecessary custody battles.

If a couple can separate the emotions from the actual divorce itself the worst and most common battles can be avoided and costs can be kept to a minimum. One of the most important things to understand is that a lawyer is not your therapist. A Lawyer and a therapist will both keep tissues in their office but do you really want to pay £300-£600 an hour to cry to someone who is not a trained emotional counselor or therapist? Use a lawyer on the most necessary parts of the negotiation but if you are sensible a Decree Absolute can be obtained online at minimal cost. It may be more worthwhile to consult an accountant or financial adviser than a lawyer when sorting out the financial settlement.

There is often a terrible feeling of failure that the relationship has turned sour, that you haven’t been able to make it work, or that you chose badly in the first place. Sometimes, in order to make us feel better about ourselves we blame the other and then make ourselves the victim and ultimately become bitter, which keeps us stuck in a place of anger and resentment. This is no way to go forward in life. If your whole life is driven by hatred, resentment and anger towards your ex partner, the person that will suffer the most is ultimately you
Hatred and bitterness are extremely unattractive traits and will eventually drive away even the most sympathetic and supportive friends and family members and you and your children will suffer, often for years and always unnecessarily. Hatred and bitterness can also ultimately damage you physically and emotionally, it shows in your face, in your body language in the language you choose, your life will begin to reflect the anger and bitterness you feel. The best thing you can do for is determine to move on and build a new life for yourself.
It is rare for someone to be able to get over the end of a long term relationship without some sort of professional help, and Theta healing can often help you move much faster than conventional therapies.

How Theta Healing Can Help

The reality is that we often choose our partners for unconscious reasons. Often we are driven by unconscious beliefs that we don’t even know we have on a conscious level. Theta healing can help you reveal and discover the beliefs that led you to choose the partner you did, or why you keep choosing the same type of person and always replay the same relationships over and over again. Until we understand what drives us and why we are attracted to people who are not good for us then we are doomed to repeat the same patterns. Theta healing can help uncover, release and reprogram our beliefs and patterns, which can help us let go of our past so we won’t be doomed to choose the same type of partner next time.

Theta Healing can help us accept the end of the relationship, let go of emotional attachments and ties to our ex-partner, help us regain our confidence and self-belief and get over the painful emotions and avoid the common pitfalls and traps that people succumb to when getting divorced or ending long term relationships. Theta can help us move on and release the hatred and bitterness. It can help us feel strong and confident about the future, treat ourselves and our ex with civility and respect and the understanding that not every relationship is meant to last forever and that everyone, especially you and even your ex, is entitled to live a life filled with joy, love and happiness.
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Is Your Relationship Ending?

January is a time for new resolutions and new beginnings, so it’s unsurprising that January sees the break up of many marriages and relationships. Family lawyers say that January is their busiest month.

There’s something about Christmas and New Year which places great strains on a relationship and often spending an extended amount of time together when you are not getting on well, believing that your feelings for each other have changed and that you are very unhappy can brings things to a head in a strained relationship.

The end of a relationship can be traumatic and have long term repercussions but with Theta Healing it is possible to save a relationship or help you move on when divorce or breaking up really is the only option.

Separating and unravelling your life from your partner’s can be a traumatic and terrifying experience.There is so much that has been done as a couple – building a life together, creating a home, a family, so many friends – so many memories.

And then there are the children. Divorce can be devastating to the children and to the partner who will no longer see them on a daily. And even if you are desperate for your partnership to end – it is a serious step to deprive the other loving parent of their children although in many cases it is often better for the children in the long run to have two parents who are happy living separately than growing up in an unhappy household.

There are also feelings of loss and grief over who will take the family pet, the possessions which have been chosen together, or the music collection.

So the first thing to think about very clearly is – can your relationship return to being a loving caring relationship? If you were to work on yourself and your relationship, could you erase the hurt and the bad feeling that has built up between you? After all – most people really liked and hopefully once loved their partner when they married them – so there must be some compatibility there.

Even though this might seem impossible, it isn’t. When you change your beliefs with Theta Healing relationships become very much better. It’s possible to erase the hurt, the loss of respect, the anger, the disappointment and all the other emotions that arise when a relationship turns sour. I have treated a number of clients who have changed their minds about divorce and been able to start again on a much better footing after receiving Theta Healing.

But sometimes it is better to move on.

I believe that the bottom line is that each individual needs to be allowed to grow within a relationship.
If that is impossible – then that person needs to gather their courage and leave.
Of course there is often divorce where there is one unwilling partner which is extraordinarily hurtful and difficult for that person, especially if they still have feelings for the partner who wishes to end the marriage.

A divorce by mutual agreement is the easiest to handle, and even then there are intense feelings of loss and failure.
When one partner wants to leave the other for a new partner – then there are feelings of guilt by the person who is leaving.
But for the partner who is being left the experience is usually much worse.
• Feelings of rejection, of not being good enough or young enough or good looking enough.
• Feelings of betrayal and anger.
• Feelings of shame that they have been discarded
• Loss of all belief in themselves
• No motivation to continue with a new life.
• Fear of the future

That deserted partner can sink into a deep depression which is difficult to come out of.
Some people start to smoke again, or to drown their sorrows in booze.
Others eat cakes and sweets, then their weight balloons, which confirms their belief that they are unattractive
In some ways it is easier if a partner dies than to be divorced. At least you have not been rejected.

When your relationship ends it is one of the most challenging changes you can face in your life. You have to come to terms with the change and begin to think of creating a new life.

You will need a lot of help and support in sifting through all the feelings that threaten to overwhelm you. Friends can be comforting though some may desert you.

Get professional help. Get help in releasing your anger and grief. Don’t get stuck in despair or bitterness.
If the situation can’t be changed – make a pledge to yourself that you are going to use the opportunity to make a better life for yourself and to be the person you always wanted to be.
It is difficult to do this on your own – so – get help.
It’s worth it.

Theta healing will help you through in a much shorter space of time. It won’t alter what has happened – but you will feel better about yourself and your future much more quickly than if you struggle with this on your own.
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Making the coming year a success

So, how do you expect the coming year to turn out?
Are you expecting your clients to tighten their belts and to no longer need you?
If so – what are you planning to do about it?

If you are self employed – remember that you are providing goods or a service which adds value to your clients’ lives. Even though you may consider that what you do is frivolous and probably dispensable, you might be astonished to discover that especially in times of economic depression, these are the things that keep your clients spirits up, and to them your service or product is not a luxury but a necessity.

It’s easy to listen to the news and to be affected by the terrible economic predictions. It’s easy to assume that your business will be affected and that people will not have the money for your services. It is very easy to feel anxious and discouraged, and that will be the message that you give your clients.

But your clients aren’t there to cheer you up, and if they sense your discouragement many of them will look elsewhere – because the last thing they need right now is to catch your depression.

If you keep yourself positive, stay cheerful and make it your business to cheer them up they will feel better for being around you. What everyone loves is to hear about success and to be associated with success. It attracts like a magnet.

When someone presents themselves as being completely confident that they can give you what you need and want – then even though it might be expensive for you – you start to think of ways of finding that money.

So how do we go about being that confident in ourselves and convincing others that they need our services and products?
First – don’t buy into the depression.
Don’t think for your clients – don’t turn them away with your belief that you know how they’re thinking and that they are about to abandon you.
Allow them to want you.

If you provide a service, think how you might help clients to feel better during these difficult times.
What can you add to the service you provide?
Just offering a cup of tea adds value and gives the client a feeling of being looked after and cared for.
Do you need to be more flexible in your hours?
Do you need to lay on transport so people can reach you easily?

There are all sorts of ways that take the difficulties out of people using your services.

If you are selling a product
Do you need to offer a better money back guarantee to make it safer for someone to make the decision to buy?
Do you need to research and define your niche market and then go all out to explain to them why they need what you can provide?

Success so often depends on sitting down and taking the time to think about where your real market is – and then devising a strategy to target that market.

Then take a good hard look at yourself.
Are you presenting yourself in a way that will attract people to you?
How is your posture – it speaks volumes!!!!!!!!!
Are you positive about yourself?
Remember it is quite difficult to fake it. If you feel that you aren’t up to scratch – others will understand that even though you might not say a word. It will be apparent in your body language.

Here are a few ideas
• Take the time to improve on your skills. This will give you fresh energy and motivation.
• Perhaps think of presenting yourself differently – change your hairstyle or dress in different colours and styles. This will wake people up to you – so you’re no longer just part of the landscape.
• Make an honest evaluation of your state of mind – your expectations and your fears – then do something about it.
The best investment you can make is in yourself.
If you have just been getting by – make an effort to improve yourself. If you are anxious or fearful, get someone to help you understand why and to help you change it.
The time and effort you invest in yourself will make you into the person who is confident and able to attract business and success.
Theta Healing has helped many people make a success of themselves and their businesses
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How to overcome fears about your financial future and expect and achieve success in today’s economic climate

I’ve noticed an undercurrent of fear among clients who are wondering whether their business and jobs will survive the coming months. Despite the doom and gloom in the press I believe that it is possible to thrive in this economy and know that the surge in negativity can be overcome by a change in perception

The negativity surrounding the economy is high, and the expectation that we can pull ourselves out of trouble in the near future becomes lower with every fresh statement from the treasury and the economists. The general atmosphere of fear and despair in the air is almost tangible – it doesn’t have to be this way.

Because the constant stream of bad news has made us fearful and depressed – we are no longer able to envision growth, success and a good outcome. The more we expect the ceiling to come crashing in – the more we modify our behaviour and strategy to ensure that it does.
When we expect an event to happen – it often does, precisely because we have invited it on an energy level.

Our reality is the outcome of our expectations.

I have had several clients say they were expecting a thin time of it. That they were expecting that their regulars would choose to go to the cheapest rival and that no-one would really want their particular skill right now. Other clients who work on a contract basis have been very fearful that contracts would not be renewed and that if nothing happened soon they would not pick up further work till after the New Year. There has been a strong fear that employers would not wish to pay the asking price for their services and that they would have to make substantial discounts to even stay in the running.

Things haven’t changed that much in recent weeks. What has changed has been the perception. Yes, it is true that many people have lost their jobs and many more will continue to do so. But that is not only a reflection of the current state of the economy – but also a reflection of the loss of heart and the expectation of a massive downturn. We are witnessing a contraction in the market due to the fear of recession which results in the downturn in investment and spending. It’s like everyone has taken a back seat and will not commit to growth or expansion until they see how things are developing. And of course – so many people opting out of growth all at once results in the very contraction that has been feared and brings the economy to a standstill.

I have spent a lot of time recently talking with clients who have lost heart and who are expecting to be laid off or underemployed. I have given Theta Healing to remove the belief that
• their worst expectations are guaranteed to happen
• for the belief that they are too old and younger people will be given the contracts they were expecting
• That they are no longer needed
• That their skills were no longer relevant
• That they needed to heavily discount their fees
• That if they don’t have a contract now – there won’t be anything for months.

If a prospective job candidate believes some or all of the above, they are going to present themselves in an entirely different light to one who feels assured that he or she is the right person for the opening. The upbeat candidate will convince his interviewers that if they employ him, the company will gain such benefit from his expertise that the asking fee is really moderate and is very good value.

Several of my clients have won contracts and been given jobs that they were originally convinced they had very little hope of getting. One man told me that far from abandoning him, his clients had given him so many commissions that he had employed someone to help him.

When confident and motivated, we can attract work and success to ourselves even in times of recession, and we can inspire others to become more optimistic.

When we have the expectation of success it is far more likely that we will convince others to help and support us in achieving that.

When we have the expectation of meltdown then however hard we try to disguise it, we show our despair and fear and contribute to the general malaise.

I would like to see us all change our negative expectations into positivity and excitement.
The recession won’t stand a chance!

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The Emotional Impact of Infertility

The urge to procreate is incredibly strong and is hardwired into us, especially into females. So when a woman wants a child and is unable to conceive it is felt as much more than a failure to conceive. This is felt as a failure as a human being.

When you have just bought a new car you suddenly notice all the other cars of the same make on the road.
When you want a baby – all you can see is pregnant women – everyone seems to be pregnant having conceived effortlessly. If another woman’s baby is unplanned and maybe unwanted then that is a further slap in the face to the woman who is dying to have a baby and cannot. She wonders what is wrong with her – if she is being punished for some misdeed. She thinks she is unloved by God and the universe or that she’s been forgotten. She feels sidelined and abandoned.

All this has a terrible effect on the woman’s emotional health. She does not feel complete as a person – as though something vital has been withheld from or denied to her. And her mind dwells on it obsessively. Every family with small children has been blessed and she has not.

Sometimes she feels ashamed of her infertility. In some cultures this is a valid reason for men to punish and divorce their wives. Then this woman is humiliated and excluded because of her infertility.
And all the while – it could have been a problem with the man!

It is well worth while for each couple to be tested to see where exactly the problems lie. As I said in my last blog – get in touch with Foresight and take their help.
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Many women find that they feel just as bad when they want another child as those women without any children at all. The urge to procreate is just as strong and so then they feel guilty and ashamed because they feel that they shouldn’t be making such a fuss when they already have a child.

I have treated many women who are so desperate to become pregnant that their entire life is centred around maximising that possibility. Her partner has to have sex around the time when his wife ovulates whether he feels like it or not. He gets to feel that his only use is as a sperm machine. He feels he has failed because his wife is so unhappy and that he must be less important to her than having a baby. Pretty soon he starts to feel angry and unwanted. And when it comes to lovemaking – he can’t work up any enthusiasm because he knows that the only reason is to produce a baby.

The effect all this has on the partnership is stressful and destructive. The man feels undervalued and the woman feels not understood and inadequately cared for.

Many women find that they feel just as bad when they want another child as those women without any children at all. The urge to procreate is just as strong and so then they feel guilty and ashamed because they feel that they shouldn’t be making such a fuss when they already have a child.

The woman is on an emotional roller coaster. Every month she hopes she will get pregnant and anxiously waits to see if her period is going to come. If it is a little late she is beside herself with hope and anxiety and then when her period finally arrives she sinks into despair.

Of course all this anxiety and negativity sends chemical signals to the body which makes the prospect of conceiving even less likely. The very opposite of the hoped for conception is achieved.

Much can be done with Theta healing to calm the situation. I have treated women who have come to terms with childlessness and who no longer think that a vital part of themselves is missing. I have treated others who have managed to relax and accept whatever happens and who have finally become pregnant. When the heat is off – the relationship has a chance to heal and this sometimes produces a pregnancy.

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