January is a time for new resolutions and new beginnings, so it’s unsurprising that January sees the break up of many marriages and relationships. Family lawyers say that January is their busiest month.
There’s something about Christmas and New Year which places great strains on a relationship and often spending an extended amount of time together when you are not getting on well, believing that your feelings for each other have changed and that you are very unhappy can brings things to a head in a strained relationship.
The end of a relationship can be traumatic and have long term repercussions but with Theta Healing it is possible to save a relationship or help you move on when divorce or breaking up really is the only option.
Separating and unravelling your life from your partner’s can be a traumatic and terrifying experience.There is so much that has been done as a couple – building a life together, creating a home, a family, so many friends – so many memories.
And then there are the children. Divorce can be devastating to the children and to the partner who will no longer see them on a daily. And even if you are desperate for your partnership to end – it is a serious step to deprive the other loving parent of their children although in many cases it is often better for the children in the long run to have two parents who are happy living separately than growing up in an unhappy household.
There are also feelings of loss and grief over who will take the family pet, the possessions which have been chosen together, or the music collection.
So the first thing to think about very clearly is – can your relationship return to being a loving caring relationship? If you were to work on yourself and your relationship, could you erase the hurt and the bad feeling that has built up between you? After all – most people really liked and hopefully once loved their partner when they married them – so there must be some compatibility there.
Even though this might seem impossible, it isn’t. When you change your beliefs with Theta Healing relationships become very much better. It’s possible to erase the hurt, the loss of respect, the anger, the disappointment and all the other emotions that arise when a relationship turns sour. I have treated a number of clients who have changed their minds about divorce and been able to start again on a much better footing after receiving Theta Healing.
But sometimes it is better to move on.
I believe that the bottom line is that each individual needs to be allowed to grow within a relationship.
If that is impossible – then that person needs to gather their courage and leave.
Of course there is often divorce where there is one unwilling partner which is extraordinarily hurtful and difficult for that person, especially if they still have feelings for the partner who wishes to end the marriage.
A divorce by mutual agreement is the easiest to handle, and even then there are intense feelings of loss and failure.
When one partner wants to leave the other for a new partner – then there are feelings of guilt by the person who is leaving.
But for the partner who is being left the experience is usually much worse.
• Feelings of rejection, of not being good enough or young enough or good looking enough.
• Feelings of betrayal and anger.
• Feelings of shame that they have been discarded
• Loss of all belief in themselves
• No motivation to continue with a new life.
• Fear of the future
That deserted partner can sink into a deep depression which is difficult to come out of.
Some people start to smoke again, or to drown their sorrows in booze.
Others eat cakes and sweets, then their weight balloons, which confirms their belief that they are unattractive
In some ways it is easier if a partner dies than to be divorced. At least you have not been rejected.
When your relationship ends it is one of the most challenging changes you can face in your life. You have to come to terms with the change and begin to think of creating a new life.
You will need a lot of help and support in sifting through all the feelings that threaten to overwhelm you. Friends can be comforting though some may desert you.
Get professional help. Get help in releasing your anger and grief. Don’t get stuck in despair or bitterness.
If the situation can’t be changed – make a pledge to yourself that you are going to use the opportunity to make a better life for yourself and to be the person you always wanted to be.
It is difficult to do this on your own – so – get help.
It’s worth it.
Theta healing will help you through in a much shorter space of time. It won’t alter what has happened – but you will feel better about yourself and your future much more quickly than if you struggle with this on your own.
If you would like to learn more about Theta Healing and how it can help you
Call me on: 07979538378
Email me at: debbie.talalay@gmail.com
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Deborah Talalay is a leading London based Theta Healer who has practised in Harley Street and West London and has successfully treated people of all ages and from all walks of life. Deborah has developed the Stamford Healing Process, an enhanced form of Theta Healing that can be accessed online anywhere in the world direct via Deborah’s Self Help Videos.