Post Traumatic Stress

Recognition of Service Men and Women on Armed Forces Day

Keeping love for yourself and others alive

How can humans treat each other like this?

I am seeing so many people right now who are in despair about world events and who say they have lost their faith in humanity.
Though I live in London, United Kingdom – I am aware that on the 25th May the US remembered their service men and women who gave their lives so that we can all live in freedom, I say we – because without the US Forces – my country would have been overrun by the Nazis.

On the 27th June, the UK is going to see events all over the country celebrating Armed Forces Day  to show support to the service men and women in the UK armed forces.

There is a lot of criticism of these forces and very little thanks for trying to contain destructive regimes and situations and I would like to publicly add my thanks.
These men and women have worked and often sacrificed their lives to police the world. It is hard to know how someone who has been in a war zone can continue their lives without some form of residual grief and horror. In my work with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, I find that one of the major casualties is the person’s belief in humanity. When you’ve lived through the horrors it’s hard to hang onto the belief that humanity is good.
I think it’s important to clear these belief patterns – because ultimately – if your belief system has been damaged in this way – it’s like giving power to the very people and regimes that we go to war to defeat.
I also believe that others respond to your belief in them.

If you think back to when you were in love – you could do no wrong. Everything you said was witty and attractive. That’s because you were being held in a space of love by the other.
But if you remember back to your dealings with a person who didn’t like you much or respect you – the opposite is true. You could do no right. Everything came out wrong – and you removed one foot from your mouth only to exchange it for the other.

So – apart from the terrible grief and despair that we subject ourselves to – the bigger picture is also very damaging. When we give in to negative beliefs about humanity – what we’re doing is adding our energy to an already bad situation. We’re giving it an energetic framework in which the horrors can continue.
It is very difficult for a person to change this negativity and despair for themselves. Sometimes a person’s religion or belief in God will get them through – but faith and the belief in a loving God are often destroyed by PTSD.
There are also various healings and meditations as well as effective therapies which can be used to heal our veterans and to heal humanity on the larger world picture. So the view is not as desolate as it would seem.

I know that we have the tools and can and will heal ourselves to bring about a better future.

How to overcome fears about your financial future and expect and achieve success in today’s economic climate

I’ve noticed an undercurrent of fear among clients who are wondering whether their business and jobs will survive the coming months. Despite the doom and gloom in the press I believe that it is possible to thrive in this economy and know that the surge in negativity can be overcome by a change in perception

The negativity surrounding the economy is high, and the expectation that we can pull ourselves out of trouble in the near future becomes lower with every fresh statement from the treasury and the economists. The general atmosphere of fear and despair in the air is almost tangible – it doesn’t have to be this way.

Because the constant stream of bad news has made us fearful and depressed – we are no longer able to envision growth, success and a good outcome. The more we expect the ceiling to come crashing in – the more we modify our behaviour and strategy to ensure that it does.
When we expect an event to happen – it often does, precisely because we have invited it on an energy level.

Our reality is the outcome of our expectations.

I have had several clients say they were expecting a thin time of it. That they were expecting that their regulars would choose to go to the cheapest rival and that no-one would really want their particular skill right now. Other clients who work on a contract basis have been very fearful that contracts would not be renewed and that if nothing happened soon they would not pick up further work till after the New Year. There has been a strong fear that employers would not wish to pay the asking price for their services and that they would have to make substantial discounts to even stay in the running.

Things haven’t changed that much in recent weeks. What has changed has been the perception. Yes, it is true that many people have lost their jobs and many more will continue to do so. But that is not only a reflection of the current state of the economy – but also a reflection of the loss of heart and the expectation of a massive downturn. We are witnessing a contraction in the market due to the fear of recession which results in the downturn in investment and spending. It’s like everyone has taken a back seat and will not commit to growth or expansion until they see how things are developing. And of course – so many people opting out of growth all at once results in the very contraction that has been feared and brings the economy to a standstill.

I have spent a lot of time recently talking with clients who have lost heart and who are expecting to be laid off or underemployed. I have given Theta Healing to remove the belief that
• their worst expectations are guaranteed to happen
• for the belief that they are too old and younger people will be given the contracts they were expecting
• That they are no longer needed
• That their skills were no longer relevant
• That they needed to heavily discount their fees
• That if they don’t have a contract now – there won’t be anything for months.

If a prospective job candidate believes some or all of the above, they are going to present themselves in an entirely different light to one who feels assured that he or she is the right person for the opening. The upbeat candidate will convince his interviewers that if they employ him, the company will gain such benefit from his expertise that the asking fee is really moderate and is very good value.

Several of my clients have won contracts and been given jobs that they were originally convinced they had very little hope of getting. One man told me that far from abandoning him, his clients had given him so many commissions that he had employed someone to help him.

When confident and motivated, we can attract work and success to ourselves even in times of recession, and we can inspire others to become more optimistic.

When we have the expectation of success it is far more likely that we will convince others to help and support us in achieving that.

When we have the expectation of meltdown then however hard we try to disguise it, we show our despair and fear and contribute to the general malaise.

I would like to see us all change our negative expectations into positivity and excitement.
The recession won’t stand a chance!

If you would like to learn more about Theta Healing and how it can help you
Call me on: 07979538378

Email me at: debbie.talalay@gmail.com

Or go to my website to find out how Theta Healing and Homeopathy could help you. www.deborahtalalayhealing.com

I am always anxious

I am so stressed and there’s nothing I can do to slow down because so many people are dependent on me.

Life has become so fast. We expect to do things and have things done for us instantly, if not yesterday.  Any delay sends us into a rage. If there is a wait behind a car which is a bit slow off the mark at a traffic light, the horns start blasting away. We have so much packed into each day, that unless everything goes perfectly – which it rarely does – we are unable to fulfil the commitments we have made. We arrive late and flustered – and we have no reserves to deal with the many little unexpected happenings that each day brings.

We’re proud of being able to multitask, and we end up by giving only a tiny part of our attention to whatever we’re doing. A parent pushing a stroller with a young child in it and with a phone clamped to her ear is a familiar sight. The child is ignored or pacified with a dummy or food if it wants attention.

We end up doing a lot – but we lose the ability to be, to communicate and relate to each other.

This is having life by the throat – so there is no room to breathe or to relax. Do it for long enough and everything becomes a burden – something to be done or to get through and it breeds irritability and ANXIETY.

Anxiety that;-

  • I won’t be able to achieve all I’ve set out to do.
  • That I’ll let people down and that they will be angry or annoyed with me.
  • That people will think less of me
  • That I will let myself down
  • That I’ll deprive my children and family in some way.
  • That I am not as competent as my friends and acquaintances.

Women are usually the ones running around trying to do what is needed for the family and holding down a job at the same time. The media have promoted the idea of the modern super woman who can grow her own vegetables, bottle and preserve them, make cakes and jam and all before setting out for her day in the executive boardroom.

Even if we like living like that – we can only keep it up for so long before the cracks begin to appear.

The price we pay is in our relationships – both with ourselves and with others.

We have completely failed to nourish ourselves and all we have is a sense of achievement for having done so much.

Nourishing ourselves can happen in different ways and they are all important.

We can start by giving ourselves the time to be with ourselves and with our thoughts. We need the time for the mind to be free of duty and responsibility so that it can float free and come up with ideas or so it can resolve a problem which has been lurking in the background.  We are not machines even if we treat ourselves like one.  We need the time to renew our energy and to clear ourselves from our recent experiences. If we don’t do this we create a backlog for the subconscious mind to deal with when we have the time. So it keeps prompting us to remember this thing and that problem which we have stored until we can sort them out. These constant reminders become anxiety.

Human beings all need to connect. Connection is what gives our lives meaning. What passes for connection is often at the surface as we don’t have the time for the connection to develop and for the energy of that connection to flow. We need to give ourselves the time and space to listen to ourselves and connect with our unconscious mind and to let that take us where it will. What we actually do is to stop any communication with ourselves by living in a constant whirlwind of activity and with a constant background of noise.

We have become estranged from ourselves and disconnected from others.

Anxiety is our warning signal that we are not getting it right and that we need to re-evaluate what we want from our lives and how to go about it. Our anxiety is, in general, not about the circumstances of our lives.  Even when these are difficult – if we feel centred and balanced we can deal with difficult circumstances and take them in our stride.

My belief is that our anxiety is because we won’t take the time to be with ourselves and with others and because we are denying ourselves the fundamental nutrition of connection.

If you would like help in reconnecting with yourself and with others, you may find that Theta Healing will help:

Please call me on – 07979538 378 to find out more.

Go to my website www.deborahtalalayhealing.com. I have given an explanation on Theta Healing and how it works.